uae non vult, illam quae vult ego nolo:
Vincere vult animos, non satiare Venus."

"I love a maid, she loves me not: full fain
She would have me, but I not her again;
So love to crucify men's souls is bent:
But seldom doth it please or give consent."

"Their love danceth in a ring, and Cupid hunts them round about; he dotes,
is doted on again." _Dumque petit petitur, pariterque accedit et ardet_,
their affection cannot be reconciled. Oftentimes they may and will not,
'tis their own foolish proceedings that mars all, they are too distrustful
of themselves, too soon dejected: say she be rich, thou poor: she young,
thou old; she lovely and fair, thou most ill-favoured and deformed; she
noble, thou base: she spruce and fine, but thou an ugly clown: _nil
desperandum_, there's hope enough yet: _Mopso Nisa datur, quid non speremus
amantes_? Put thyself forward once more, as unlikely matches have been and
are daily made, see what will be the event. Many leave roses and gather
thistles, loathe honey and love verjuice: our likings are as various as our
palates. But commonly they omit opportunities, _oscula qui sumpsit_, &c.,
they neglect the usual means and times.

"He that will not when he may,
When he will he shall have nay."

They look to be wooed, sought after, and sued to. Most part they will and
cannot, either for the above-named reasons, or for that there is a
multitude of suitors equally enamoured, doting all alike; and where one
alone must speed, what shall become of the rest? Hero was beloved of many,
but one did enjoy her; Penelope had a company of suitors, yet all missed of
their aim. In such cases he or they must wisely and warily unwind
themselves, unsettle his affections by those rules above prescribed,--
[5856]_quin stultos excutit ignes_, divert his cogitations, or else bravely
bear it out, as Turnus did, _Tua sit Lavinia conjux_, when he could not get
her, with a kind of heroical scorn he bid Aeneas take her, or with a milder
farewell, let her go. _Et Phillida solus habeto_, "Take her to you, God
give you joy, sir." The fox in the emblem would eat no grapes, but why?
because he could not get them; care not then for that which may not be had.

Many such inconveniences, lets, and hindrances there are, which cross their
projects and crucify poor lovers, which sometimes may, sometimes again
cannot be so easily removed. But put case they be reconciled all, agre