h his father, why he
should offer to marry his client Solinius' daughter, a young wench, _Cujus
causa novercam induceret_; what offence had he done, that he should marry
again?

Unkind, unnatural friends, evil neighbours, bad servants, debts and
debates, &c., 'twas Chilon's sentence, _comes aeris alieni et litis est
miseria_, misery and usury do commonly together; suretyship is the bane of
many families, _Sponde, praesto noxa est_: "he shall be sore vexed that is
surety for a stranger," Prov. xi. 15, "and he that hateth suretyship is
sure." Contention, brawling, lawsuits, falling out of neighbours and
friends.--_discordia demens_ (Virg. _Aen. 6_,) are equal to the first,
grieve many a man, and vex his soul. _Nihil sane miserabilius eorum
mentibus_, (as [2375]Boter holds) "nothing so miserable as such men, full
of cares, griefs, anxieties, as if they were stabbed with a sharp sword,
fear, suspicion, desperation, sorrow, are their ordinary companions." Our
Welshmen are noted by some of their [2376]own writers, to consume one
another in this kind; but whosoever they are that use it, these are their
common symptoms, especially if they be convict or overcome, [2377]cast in a
suit. Arius put out of a bishopric by Eustathius, turned heretic, and lived
after discontented all his life. [2378]Every repulse is of like nature;
_heu quanta de spe decidi_! Disgrace, infamy, detraction, will almost
effect as much, and that a long time after. Hipponax, a satirical poet, so
vilified and lashed two painters in his iambics, _ut ambo laqueo se
suffocarent_, [2379]Pliny saith, both hanged themselves. All oppositions,
dangers, perplexities, discontents, [2380]to live in any suspense, are of
the same rank: _potes hoc sub casu ducere somnos_? Who can be secure in
such cases? Ill-bestowed benefits, ingratitude, unthankful friends, much
disquiet and molest some. Unkind speeches trouble as many; uncivil carriage
or dogged answers, weak women above the rest, if they proceed from their
surly husbands, are as bitter as gall, and not to be digested. A glassman's
wife in Basil became melancholy because her husband said he would marry
again if she died. "No cut to unkindness," as the saying is, a frown and
hard speech, ill respect, a browbeating, or bad look, especially to
courtiers, or such as attend upon great persons, is present death:
_Ingenium vultu statque caditque suo_, they ebb and flow with their
masters' favours. Some persons are at their wits