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epentance of every sin of thought, word, and deed, and the reception of the holy sacrament; for thus the man and woman who approach the august duty of creating a home are reminded of the sanctity and beauty of what they undertake. In this art of home-making I have set down in my mind certain first principles, like the axioms of Euclid, and the first is,-- _No home is possible without love._ All business-marriages and marriages of convenience, all mere culinary marriages and marriages of mere animal passion, make the creation of a true home impossible in the outset. Love is the jewelled foundation of this New Jerusalem descending from God out of heaven, and takes as many bright forms as the amethyst, topaz, and sapphire of that mysterious vision. In this range of creative art all things are possible to him that loveth, but without love nothing is possible. We hear of most convenient marriages in foreign lands, which may better be described as commercial partnerships. The money on each side is counted; there is enough between the parties to carry on the firm, each having the appropriate sum allotted to each. No love is pretended, but there is great politeness. All is so legally and thoroughly arranged, that there seems to be nothing left for future quarrels to fasten on. Monsieur and Madame have each their apartments, their carriages, their servants, their income, their friends, their pursuits,--understand the solemn vows of marriage to mean simply that they are to treat each other with urbanity in those few situations where the path of life must necessarily bring them together. We are sorry that such an idea of marriage should be gaining foothold in America. It has its root in an ignoble view of life,--an utter and pagan darkness as to all that man and woman are called to do in that highest relation where they act as one. It is a mean and low contrivance on both sides, by which all the grand work of home-building, all the noble pains and heroic toils of home-education,--that education where the parents learn more than they teach,--shall be (let us use the expressive Yankee idiom) _shirked_. It is a curious fact that in those countries where this system of marriages is the general rule there is no word corresponding to our English word _home_. In many polite languages of Europe it would be impossible neatly to translate the sentiment with which we began this essay, that a man's _house_ is not always his _home_
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