nd that your
mate do likewise.

Never read at the table unless your mate also has something interesting
to read and agrees to the arrangement.

Bring your mate into contact with your relatives so infrequently and
under such favorable circumstances that their liking for each other will
flourish rather than perish.

Do not try that dangerous experiment of flirting with someone else in
order to keep your mate interested in you.

Never repulse your mate's sexual advances in a way which will seem
unloving, contemptuous, or irritated. If you cannot respond fully at the
moment, be sure that you express unmistakably your respect, your
affection, and your comradeship, and make it clear that the necessary
sexual denial is a mere postponement.

Watch to see whether you are needlessly violating your mate's ideals of
courtesy, decency, good sportmanship, generosity, or honor.

See whether you can discover any other way in which you have been
unnecessarily irritating or hurting your mate, and make a clean break
with that joy-destroying habit.

_3. Find ways to do new joyful things together_, even in seemingly
trivial ways. The long check list under item 2 is largely negative. Add
the positive side. Buy your mate little presents--from the ten-cent
store and occasionally from more expensive places. Make a private list
of the small things that please him most (yellow jonquils, Olivia de
Havilland, dipped caramels, picnics, chicken pie, Bill Smith, ice-box
snacks, Beethoven records, best-seller novels, theatre parties, grape
juice with ginger ale, odd china, or whatever they are) and make a habit
of springing small but delightful surprises. Cultivate the friendly
little family jokes that grow up wherever people enjoy each other
intimately.

_4. Have children together_ if you possibly can. Have them deliberately,
by mutual agreement. Have as many as your mate can wholeheartedly agree
to, and throw yourselves into the great adventure of giving them the
best possible start in life. Remember that the finest things you can
give your children are courage, self-respect, faith, understanding of
beauty, comradeship, and the eager desire to serve their fellowmen.
These great endowments can be given to one's sons and daughters even
though one has a severe struggle to give them good clothes and an
education. Often the financially hard-pressed give their young a far
richer heritage than do those who are wealthy but neglectful.

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