n to insure success. A
common interest in religion, saying prayers together, will help
enormously toward increasing and preserving happiness.

For a true belief in the Christian religion will improve daily manners.
Husband and wife will not take each other for granted; they will not
become stodgy or commonplace or stereotyped.

Tennyson gave in "The Princess" the real kind of marriage which one of
my students described in the vernacular: "I am going to be married. It
won't be much of a wedding, but it will be a wonderful marriage." Listen
to Tennyson:

"For woman is not undevelopt man,
But diverse. Could we make her as the man,
Sweet Love were slain; his dearest bond is this,
Not like to like, but like in difference.
Yet in the long years liker must they grow;
The man be more of woman, she of man;
He gain in sweetness and in moral height,
Nor lose the wrestling thews that throw the world;
She mental breadth, nor fail in childward care,
Nor lose the childlike in the larger mind;
Till at the last she set herself to man,
Like perfect music unto noble words."

A wife may be a civilizing force; this is well. But she may be far more
than that. She may be a revelation in daily intimacy more unconsciously
impressive than a professional saint.

This is what _Caponsacchi_ said of an imagined union with _Pompilia_, in
Browning's "The Ring and the Book":

"To live, and see her learn, and learn by her,
Out of the low obscure and petty world--
Or only see one purpose and one will
Evolve themselves i' the world, change wrong to right;
To have to do with nothing but the true,
The good, the eternal--and these, not alone
In the main current of the general life,
But small experiences of every day,
Concerns of the particular hearth and home:
To learn not only by a comet's rush
But a rose's birth, not by the grandeur, God,
But the comfort, Christ."

_Stanley G. Dickinson_

CHAPTER ELEVEN

_It Pays to be Happily Married_

Business believe that the happily married man will occupy a bigger
position in the business world than will the man who is unhappy at home.
The young men and young women in _Good Housekeeping's_
marriage-relations course have a right to know this, to know precisely
the interest which business has in harmonious marriage and the extent to
which home life is a factor when men are considered for promotion,