said not to be?

3. The disciples of Tzu-hsia asked Tzu-chang whom we should choose as
our companions.

Tzu-chang said. What does Tzu-hsia say?

They answered, Tzu-hsia says, If the men be well for thee, go with
them; if they be not well, push them off.

Tzu-chang said. This is not the same as what I had heard. A gentleman
honours worth and bears with the many. He applauds goodness and pities
weakness. If I were a man of great worth, what could I not bear with
in others? If I am without worth, men will push me off: why should I
push other men off?

4. Tzu-hsia said, Though there must be things worth seeing along small
ways, a gentleman does not follow them, for fear of being left at last
in the mire.

5. Tzu-hsia said, He that each day remembers his failings and each
month forgets nothing won may be said to love learning indeed!

6. Tzu-hsia said, By wide learning and singleness of will, by keen
questions and home thinking we reach love.

7. Tzu-hsia said, To master the hundred trades, apprentices work in a
shop; by learning, a gentleman finds his way.

8. Tzu-hsia said, The small man must always gloss his faults.

9. Tzu-hsia said, A gentleman changes thrice. Looking up to him he
seems stern; as we draw near, he warms; but his speech, when we hear
it, is sharp.

10. Tzu-hsia said, Until they trust him, a gentleman lays no burdens
on his people. If they do not trust him, they will think it cruel.
Until they trust him, he does not chide them. Unless they trust him,
it will seem fault-finding.

11. Tzu-hsia said, If we keep within the bounds of honour, we can step
to and fro through propriety.

12. Tzu-yu said, The disciples, the little sons of Tzu-hsia, can
sprinkle and sweep, attend and answer, come in and go out; but what
can come of twigs without roots?

When Tzu-hsia heard this, he said, Yen Yu[173] is wrong. If we teach
one thing in the way of a gentleman first, shall we tire before
reaching the next? Thus plants and trees differ in size. Should the
way of a gentleman bewilder him? To learn it, first and last, none but
the holy are fit.

[Footnote 173: Tzu-yu.]

13. Tzu-hsia said, A servant of the crown should give his spare
strength to learning. With his spare strength a scholar should serve
the crown.

14. Tzu-yu said, Mourning should stretch to grief, and stop there.

15. Tzu-yu said, Our friend Chang[174] can do hard things, but love is
not yet his.

16. Tseng-tzu said, Chang is so spa