s, and such as lament; a
groaning companion is an enemy to quietness." [3442]"Or if there be any
such party, at whose presence the patient is not well pleased, he must be
removed: gentle speeches, and fair means, must first be tried; no harsh
language used, or uncomfortable words; and not expel, as some do, one
madness with another; he that so doth, is madder than the patient himself:"
all things must be quietly composed; _eversa non evertenda, sed erigenda_,
things down must not be dejected, but reared, as Crato counselleth; [3443]
"he must be quietly and gently used," and we should not do anything against
his mind, but by little and little effect it. As a horse that starts at a
drum or trumpet, and will not endure the shooting of a piece, may be so
manned by art, and animated, that he cannot only endure, but is much more
generous at the hearing of such things, much more courageous than before,
and much delighteth in it: they must not be reformed _ex abrupto_, but by
all art and insinuation, made to such companies, aspects, objects they
could not formerly away with. Many at first cannot endure the sight of a
green wound, a sick man, which afterward become good chirurgeons, bold
empirics: a horse starts at a rotten post afar off, which coming near he
quietly passeth. 'Tis much in the manner of making such kind of persons, be
they never so averse from company, bashful, solitary, timorous, they may be
made at last with those Roman matrons, to desire nothing more than in a
public show, to see a full company of gladiators breathe out their last.

If they may not otherwise be accustomed to brook such distasteful and
displeasing objects, the best way then is generally to avoid them.
Montanus, _consil. 229._ to the Earl of Montfort, a courtier, and his
melancholy patient, adviseth him to leave the court, by reason of those
continual discontents, crosses, abuses, [3444]"cares, suspicions,
emulations, ambition, anger, jealousy, which that place afforded, and which
surely caused him to be so melancholy at the first:" _Maxima quaeque domus
servis est plena superbis_; a company of scoffers and proud jacks are
commonly conversant and attend in such places, and able to make any man
that is of a soft, quiet disposition (as many times they do) _ex stulto
insanum_, if once they humour him, a very idiot, or stark mad. A thing too
much practised in all common societies, and they have no better sport than
to make themselves merry by abusing