h is over to greet the
belated guest and bid adieu to those who are leaving.

[708 MOTHERS' REMEDIES]

Decorations.--It is usual to decorate the rooms with flowers, and the
services of the florist as well as the caterer are required if it is a
large affair. Cards are usually left, as a token that one has been
present, but in this case a card is manifestly not a visit, since it would
be absurd for a woman to invite fifty, a hundred, or even five hundred
people, who would expect her to call on them afterwards. Cards are sent by
those who do not attend, on the day. A reception given for forty or fifty
people is less formal, perhaps, but requires flowers--in less
profusion--and refreshments. The awning may be dispensed with if the day
is fine, but seldom is. The door must be promptly opened, and the maid
remains at her post during the affair if there are many guests, to open it
for those who leave as well as those who arrive.

HOSPITALITY IN THE HOME.

"There is an emanation from the heart in genuine hospitality which cannot
be described, but is immediately felt, and puts the stranger at once at
his ease."
--Washington Irving.

Were we to look up the meaning of the word hospitality in the dictionary,
we would find it defined as the act of receiving and entertaining guests
kindly, generously, and gratuitously, without expectation of reward.

According to such a definition, much that passes for hospitality in the
social realm does not deserve the name. Society is a give-and-take
arrangement, somewhat resembling the gift exchange we practise at
Christmas. If you do not give you do not get; if you do not entertain you
are not invited, unless it is understood that circumstances prevent your
doing so. Then one is asked for what one can contribute in the way of good
company, promotion of gayety, and the like. One "pays her way" by being
agreeable, well gowned, popular. Thus, in a way, much social hospitality
is merely social bargaining. The woman who feels indebted to her
circle--or circles, for these impinge upon each other--gives a large
reception or "at home." She can seldom do more than welcome the coming and
speed the parting guest. Her greeting is "So delighted to see you here;"
her farewell, "Good-bye; so glad you were able to come." Her guests have
greeted each other in much the same casual fashion, have had some
refreshments warranted to destroy their appeti