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relatives. However, people now go to the theater and small dinners and
teas after nine months of mourning for the very nearest relatives.

It is not necessary for a man to shroud himself in black. A silk hat
with a crape band nearly to the top should be worn by widowers during
the first year of their widowerhood; but black shirt studs, black sleeve
buttons, handkerchiefs bordered with black, and the other abominations
in which the grief-stricken Frenchman arrays himself are not tolerated
in this country. In deep mourning one can wear black ties and black
gloves, but a white linen tie in summer is permissible. I do not
advocate the use of black scarf pins. A black band on the sleeve of a
gray suit is also another affectation which should be avoided. Cards
should be left after a funeral.

There is no code of etiquette established as yet for divorce. Second
marriages should be as quiet as possible. This advice is given to
bachelors who are contemplating matrimony with divorcees.

GENERAL ADVICE FOR UNCLASSIFIED OCCASIONS.

If you are chosen godfather, you are expected to send a silver mug to
your godchild. Christening parties are held about four in the afternoon.
Afternoon dress is required.

When giving a dinner or any entertainment at a certain well-known New
York restaurant do not refer to it as "Del's." This is an earmark of
vulgarity.

When speaking of the city of New York do not refer to it as "Gotham."
This shows the worst kind of provincialism and a vulgar spirit.

Even should your friends be among the most exclusive and fashionable in
any place, they are never "swells," nor do they belong to the "Four
Hundred." The latter term was once used by a gentleman to designate the
probable list of people who were to entertain in New York that season,
and has no bearing whatever upon the question of social limit.

If you send flowers never have them arranged in set designs. Fair
voyagers will thank you much more if you send fruit, sweets, or books,
as flowers on shipboard or railroad trains are nuisances. Books, sweets,
and flowers are the only gifts which a bachelor can offer or a woman
accept from him.

The terms "lady" and "gentleman" are distinctive. Your friends and
acquaintances are all supposed to be ladies and gentlemen. To
distinguish them as such implies a doubt. Should you call at a house you
ask if the "ladies" are in, so as to distinguish them from the other
females in the household. You also toa