clude
that the picture must be a priceless treasure. So they bid higher still,
and get it. As a rule, these men are remarkable neither for their
intelligence nor for their appreciation of true womanhood.

This remark, however, would apply to Englishmen or Americans rather
than to Frenchmen, because in France, when a girl has been engaged, she
has only met her _fiance_ in the presence of her parents, whereas in
England or America the young people have had lonely and sentimental
walks together, indulged in many little familiarities--proper, no
doubt, but still familiarities, all the same; and the young Anglo-Saxon
girl who has been engaged is a flower whose bloom has been a little
rubbed off. In the eyes of the real, true man, she has lost--indeed,
she _must_ have lost--some of her value, a bit of her innocence, as it
were. How can a man marry such a girl and run the risk, when he gives
her a kiss, of hearing her exclaim: 'Oh, Jack used to give me much
better kisses than that!' He must be a very brave man, one very sure of
himself, who is not afraid of competition, or a very conceited, if not
a very foolish, one.

Not only are there men who court women because they are run after, but
there are some who never really fall in love with their wives until
they have some serious reasons to be jealous of them. Then, and then
only, do they seem to realize that their wives must possess some
attractions, since other men are attracted by them. But this sentiment
I should not care to call love, but rather false pride, because that
man might have exactly the same feeling toward a horse or a dog the
possession of which other men envied him. Many a man, on hearing the
beauty of his wife praised, has said to himself: 'I wonder if it is
true. I must have a look at her.'

I have heard many men and women say that there is no love without
jealousy--in fact, that jealousy is the natural consequence of love.
St. Augustine said: 'He that is not jealous is not in love.' I believe
these people are wrong, including St. Augustine, before whose authority
on love and women I decline to bow. There is no room for jealousy in
the heart that loves really and truly. There is no real love where
there is no _abandon_ and complete confidence.

Jealousy may be intensified by love, but not created by it. Jealousy is
a characteristic of men and women which manifests itself in love as it
does in friendship and in every phase of life. Love gives it a special