d without ceremony hour.
If a lady is driving when she calls at the house of an acquaintance, she
should say to her servant, "Ask if Mrs. A---- is at home."
When a lady is walking, she should ask the same question herself.
When the answer is in the negative, she should leave one of her own
cards and one of her husband's, and should say to the servant, "For Mr.
and Mrs. A----."
When the answer is in the affirmative, the lady should enter the house
without further remark and follow the servant to the drawing-room.
The servant should go before the visitor, to lead the way to the
drawing-room, and, however accustomed a visitor may be to a house, it is
still the proper etiquette for the servant to lead the way, and announce
him or her to his mistress; and this rule should not be dispensed with,
except in the case of very near relations or very intimate friends.
At the drawing-room door the servant waits for a moment until the
visitor has reached the landing, when the visitor should give his or her
name to the servant, "Mr. A----" or "Mrs. A----," should the servant be
unacquainted with it.
If the visitor calling bears the title of "Honourable" it should not be
mentioned by him or her to the servant when giving the name, neither
should it be mentioned by the servant when announcing the visitor.
All titles are given in full by the servants of those who bear them,
thus: "The Duke and Duchess of A----," "The Marquis and Marchioness of
B----," "The Earl and Countess of C----," "Viscount and Viscountess
D----," "Lord and Lady E----," etc.; but a marchioness, a countess, or a
viscountess when giving her name to be announced at a morning call would
style herself "Lady A----" only.
A gentleman or lady should never give his or her visiting card to the
servant when the mistress of the house is at home.
A servant should not knock at the drawing-room door when announcing
visitors. The servant, on opening the drawing-room door, should stand
inside the doorway, he should not stand behind the door, but well into
the room; facing the mistress of the house if possible, and should say,
"Mr. A----," or "Mrs. A----."
When the mistress of the house is not in the drawing-room when a visitor
arrives, the visitor should seat herself and rise at her entrance.
Visitors should not make any inquiries of the servant as to how long his
mistress will be, or where she is, or what she is doing, etc. Visitors
are not expected to conve
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