again invite him, he
might consider the acquaintance at an end and cease to call. These
complimentary calls made, or rather cards left, should not average more
than four during the year.

* * * * *

=Memorial Cards= are out of date in society, and consequently should not
be sent to either relatives or friends.

A widow should not make use of her christian name on her visiting cards
to distinguish her from other members of her late husband's family. Her
cards should be printed as during his lifetime.

FOOTNOTES:

[1] It is, however, permissible on the occasion of a _first_ call to
say, "I shall leave my card in the hall to remind you of my address";
or some such phrase.

CHAPTER IV

PAYING CALLS

Ladies stand upon strict and ceremonious etiquette with each other as
regards both paying and receiving calls. Ignorance or neglect of the
rules which regulate paying calls, brings many inconveniences in its
train; for instance, when a lady neglects to pay a call due to an
acquaintance, she runs the risk of herself and daughters being excluded
from entertainments given by the said acquaintance.

When a call has not been made within a reasonable time, a coldness is
apt to arise between ladies but slightly acquainted with each other.
Some ladies take this omission good-naturedly or indifferently, while
with others the acquaintance merges into a mere bowing acquaintance to
be subsequently dropped altogether.

The first principle of calling is, that those who are the first to
arrive in town should be the _first_ to call upon their acquaintances to
intimate their return.

"Morning calls," so designated on account of their being made before
dinner, are, more strictly speaking, "afternoon calls," as they should
only be made between the hours of three and six o'clock.

Calls made in the morning--that is before one o'clock--would not come
under the denomination of "morning calls," as they can only be made by
intimate friends and not by acquaintances, and are not, therefore,
amenable to the rules of etiquette which govern the afternoon calls,
which calls are regulated in a great measure--as to the hour of
calling--by the exact degree of intimacy existing between the person who
calls and the person called upon. From three to four o'clock is the
ceremonious hour for calling; from four to five o'clock is the
semi-ceremonious hour; and from five to six o'clock is the wholly
friendly an