funeral, or in a cemetery, or
anywhere that there is mourning. It is an injury to a child to see
grief,--unless it be his great concern, and in that case it is no
longer a matter of etiquette, but of necessary life experience.

Children should not dine out except by special invitation. It is as
discourteous to permit a child thoughtlessly to inconvenience a
neighbor, as it is wrong for the child to think that such uninvited
visits are permissible.

A child should be taught never to touch what does not belong to it,
except with the express permission of the owner. This applies to goods
in a store, as well as to the furniture of places other than his
home, and to the belongings of others in his home.

A child should not be allowed to intrude into a drive, a walk, a call,
or a conversation. It is unfair to the child, and awkward for him, and
is no kindness, as it takes away the benefit which he might otherwise
derive from the pleasure either by continually snubbing his
self-respect, or by repressing his energy and curiosity to the danger
point.

Children should not be allowed to go to picnic parties, unless they
have been invited and entertainment prepared for them.

Children should be taught to treat servants with all the politeness
with which they treat their elders, and with much more consideration.
The converse of the servants with children should be of the same
careful and pleasant quality that the best parents use and desire.
This may well be insisted upon. On the other hand, the children should
be taught that servants are busy people, that they should never be
imposed upon, and that unnecessary work should not be made for them.

CHAPTER XIV

ETIQUETTE OF MOURNING

UPON the occasion of a death in the family a reliable undertaker is at
once notified and his suggestions followed as to the necessary
preparations to be made for the funeral.

The shades are drawn throughout the front of the house, as a sign that
the family is in retirement. The women of the family are not seen upon
the street unless necessary, the men taking full charge of all
business matters. The directions which the undertaker desires should
be decided upon by the family, or nearest relative of the deceased,
and then some one member of the family should be delegated to see that
they are carried out. Palm leaves tied with ribbon or chiffon, spray
bouquets of white flowers tied with ribbon, an ivy wreath broken with
a bunch of purple