litude, and, when they are beginning to
think, are sometimes surprised at their own thoughts. There is nothing to
be deplored, scarcely to be feared, in this. It almost always wears off;
but sometimes it happens, that they have not judicious friends by them to
explain, that the habits which they think peculiar are universal, and, if
unreasonably indulged, can ultimately only turn them into indolent,
insignificant members of society, and occasion them lasting unhappiness.

But to enter society with pleasure, you must be qualified for it. I think
it quite time for you to make yourself master of some accomplishments.
Decidedly you should make yourself a good dancer. Without dancing, you can
never attain a perfectly graceful carriage, which is of the highest
importance in life, and should be every man's ambition. You are yet too
young fully to comprehend, how much in life depends upon manner. Whenever
you see a man, who is successful in society, try to discover what makes
him pleasing, and, if possible, adopt his system. You should learn to
fence. For languages, at present, French will be sufficient. You speak it
fairly: try to speak it elegantly. Read French authors. Read
Rouchefoucault. The French writers are the finest in the world, for they
clear our heads of ridiculous ideas. Study precision.

Do not talk too much at present, do not _try_ to talk. But whenever you
speak, speak with self-possession. Speak in a subdued tone, and always
look at the person whom you are addressing. Before one can engage in
general conversation with any effect, there is a certain acquaintance with
trifling, but amusing subjects, which must be first attained. You will
soon pick up sufficient by listening and observing. Never argue. In
society, nothing must be discussed: give only results. If any person
differ with you--bow and turn the conversation. In society, never
think--always be on the watch, or you will miss many opportunities, and
say many disagreeable things.

Talk to women, talk to women as much as you can. This is the best school.
This is the way to gain fluency--because you need not care what you say,
and had better not be sensible. They too will rally you on many points,
and, as they are women, you will not be offended. Nothing is of so much
importance, and of so much use, to a young man entering life, as to be
well criticised by women. It is impossible to get rid of those thousand
bad habits, which we pick up in boyhood, without