our own sense,
your self-respect, your self-love, your love for others, command you not to
spoil yourself by crying over "spilt milk."

[Illustration: MARRIAGE ON A DEATHBED.]

9. RETRIEVE YOUR PAST LOSS.--Do sun, moon, and stars indeed rise and set in
your loved one? Are there not "as good fish in the sea as ever were
caught?" and can you not catch them? Are there not other hearts on earth
just as loving and lovely, and in every way as congenial? If circumstances
had first turned you upon another, you would have felt about that one as
now about this. Love depends far less on the party loved than on the loving
one. Or is this the way either to retrieve your past loss, or provide for
the future? Is it not both unwise and self-destructive; and in every way
calculated to render your case, present and prospective, still more
hopeless?

10. FIND SOMETHING TO DO.--Idle hands are Satan's workshop. Employ your
mind; find something to do; something in which you can find
self-improvement; something that will fit you better to be admired by
someone else, read, and improve your mind; get into society, throw your
whole soul into some new enterprise, and you will conquer with glory and
come out of the fire purified and made more worthy.

11. LOVE AGAIN.--As love was the cause of your suffering, so love again
will restore you, and you will love better and more consistently. Do not
allow yourself to become soured and detest and shun association. Rebuild
your dilapidated sexuality by cultivating a general appreciation of the
excellence, especially of the mental and moral qualities of the opposite
sex. Conquer your prejudices, and vow not to allow anyone to annoy or
disturb your calmness.

12. LOVE FOR THE DEAD.--A most affectionate woman, who continues to love
her affianced though long dead, instead of becoming soured or deadened,
manifests all the richness and sweetness of the fully-developed woman
thoroughly in love, along with a softened, mellow, twilight sadness which
touches every heart, yet throws a peculiar lustre and beauty over her
manners and entire character. She must mourn, {161} but not forever. It is
not her duty to herself or to her Creator.

13. A SURE REMEDY.--Come in contact with the other sex. You are infused
with your lover's magnetism, which must remain till displaced by another's.
Go to parties and picnics; be free, familiar, offhand, even forward; try
your knack at fascinating another, and yield to fascinati