N'S CAUTION.--And, especially, let no young lady ever
once think of bestowing her affections till she is certain they will not be
broken off--that is, until the match is fully agreed upon; but rather let
her keep her heart whole till she bestows it for life. This requisition is
as much more important, and its violation as much more disastrous to woman
than to man, as her social faculties are stronger than his.

16. A BURNT CHILD DREADS THE FIRE.--As a "burnt child dreads the fire," and
the more it is burnt, the greater the dread: so your affections, once
interrupted, will recoil from a second love, and distrust all mankind. No!
you cannot be too choice of your love--that pivot on which turn your
destinies for life and future happiness.

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Love-Spats.

For aught that ever I could read,
Could ever hear by tale or history,
The course of true love never did ran smooth."--SHAKESPEARE.

"Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned,
Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned."--CONGREVE.

"Thunderstorms clear the atmosphere and promote vegetation; then why
not Love-spats promote love, as they certainly often do?

They are almost universal, and in the nature of our differences cannot
be helped. The more two love, the more they are aggrieved by each
other's faults; of which these spats are but the correction.

Love-spats instead of being universal, they are consequent on imperfect
love, and only aggravate, never correct errors. Sexual storms never
improve, whereas love obviates faults by praising the opposite virtues.
Every view of them, practical and philosophical, condemns them as being
to love what poison is to health, both before and after marriage. They
are nothing but married discords. Every law of mind and love condemns
them. Shun them as you would deadly vipers, and prevent them by
forestallment."--O. S. Fowler.

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1. THE TRUE FACTS.--Notwithstanding some of the above quotations, to the
contrary, trouble and disagreement between lovers embitters both love and
life. Contention is always dangerous, and will beget alienation if not
final separation.

2. CONFIRMED AFFECTIONS.--Where affections are once thoroughly confirmed,
each one should be very careful in taking offense, and avoid all
disagreements as far as possible, but if disagreements continually develop
with