ly give her confidence, or show to uninterested
persons too much of her real self. In other words, we must educate her
into a reserve, into the gentle, unoffending dignity which holds all but
the nearest and dearest at a little distance from herself. This is not
teaching deceit. It is only teaching what must be learned, the means of
"possessing one's self in peace." The majority of our girls who talk and
laugh loudly on Broadway, do not do this to attract attention. They do
it simply because their education on this point is not yet completed. A
slight indication of the same defect in education is the profusion of
endearing pet names, which we find in the published catalogues of girl
students. If the girls themselves do not realize the impropriety of thus
publishing to a world of careless strangers, the names which family
affection has bestowed upon them, should not the teachers who compile
the catalogues, direct and overrule their uneducated taste? It is only
necessary to imagine the catalogue of Harvard or Yale, printed in the
same manner, to make manifest, even to the girls themselves, the want of
proper dignity displayed. Men, in their intercourse with the world,
learn sooner than women, by the rough teaching of experience, the
necessity of fending in their inner selves from the outer world. But
both boys and girls might be saved much time and pain, if parents and
guardians recognized more clearly that this was a part of education.

But in all the training of the will on this social side, we must never
forget, and here lies the greatest problem for the educator, that
individuality is not to be sacrificed, that it must be most jealously
preserved. We have only to remember what has been so often said before,
that education consists, not in destroying, but in training. The will is
only to be directed, never to be broken, or even weakened, and she who
endeavors to do this is working in the interest of evil and not of good,
while she who should, if it were possible, succeed in it, would have, as
the result of her efforts, only a total ruin instead of a fair and
stately edifice. It may often, indeed, become her duty to strengthen it,
for without a strong will, the moral nature will fall a prey to the
forces of evil as surely and quickly as the body, deprived of the life
principle, rushes to corruption and disintegration.

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_Moral Culture._--In the previous division, the will has be