ADVICE.--Here let me say that on no subject should a man and
woman, as they are being attracted into conjugal relations, be more
open and truthful with each other than on this. No woman, who would
save herself and the man she loves from a desecrated and wretched
home, should enter into the physical relations of marriage with a man
until she understands what he expects of her as to the function of
maternity, and the relation that leads to it. If a woman is made aware
that the man who would win her as a wife regards her and the marriage
relation only as the means of a legalized gratification of his
passions, and she sees fit to live with him as a wife, with such a
prospect before her, she must take the consequences of a course so
degrading and so shameless. If she sees fit to make an offering of her
body and soul on the altar of her husband's sensuality, she must do
it; but she has a right to know to what base uses her womanhood is to
be put, and it is due to her, as well as to himself, that he should
tell beforehand precisely what he wants and expects of her.

Too frequently, man shrinks from all allusion, during courtship, to
his expectations in regard to future passional relations. He fears to
speak of them, lest he should shock and repel the woman he would win
as a wife. Being conscious, it may be, of an intention to use power
he may acquire over her person for his own gratification, he shuns
all interchange of views with her, lest she should divine the hidden
sensualism of his soul, and his intention to victimize her person to
it the moment he shall get the license. A woman had better die at
once than enter into or continue in marriage with a man whose highest
conception of the relation is, that it is a means of licensed animal
indulgence. In such a relation, body and soul are sacrificed.

7. ONE DISTINCTIVE CHARACTERISTIC of a true and noble husband is a
feeling of manly pride in the physical elements of his manhood. His
physical manhood, as well as his soul, is dear to the heart of his
wife, because through this he can give the fullest expression of his
manly power. How can you, my friend, secure for your person the loving
care and respect of your wife? There is but one way: so manifest
yourself to her, in the hours of your most endearing intimacies,
that all your manly power shall be associated only with all that
is generous, just and noble in you, and with purity, freedom and
happiness in her. Make her feel that