HAT USUALLY CAUSES distress to many women,
whether a bride or a long-time wife?" The answer is, Simply those
conditions of the organs in which they are not properly prepared, by
anticipation and desire, to receive a foreign body. The modest one
craves only refined and platonic love at first, and if husbands, new
and old, would only realize this plain truth, wife-torturing would
cease and the happiness of each one of all human pairs vastly
increase.

11. THE CONDITIONS OF THE FEMALE organs depend upon the state of the
mind just as much as in the case of the husband. The male, however,
being more sensual, is more quickly roused. She is far less often or
early ready. In its unexcited state the vagina is lax, its walls are
closed together, and their surfaces covered by but little lubricating
secretion. The chaster one of the pair has no desire that this sacred
vestibule to the great arcana of procreation shall be immediately and
roughly invaded. This, then, is the time for all approaches by
the husband to be of the most delicate, considerate, and refined
description possible. The quietest and softest demeanor, with gentle
and re-assuring words, are all that should be attempted at first. The
wedding day has probably been one of fatigue, and it is foolish to go
farther.

12. FOR MORE THAN ONE NIGHT it will be wise, indeed, if the wife's
confidence shall be as much wooed and won by patient, delicate, and
prolonged courting, as before the marriage engagement. How long should
this period of waiting be can only be decided by the circumstances of
any case. The bride will ultimately deny no favor which is sought with
full deference to her modesty, and in connection with which bestiality
is not exhibited. Her nature is that of delicacy; her affection is
of a refined character; if the love and conduct offered to her are a
careful effort to adapt roughness and strength to her refinement and
weakness, her admiration and responsive love will be excited to the
utmost.

13. WHEN THAT MOMENT ARRIVES when the bride finds she can repose
perfect confidence in the kindness of her husband, that his love is
not purely animal, and that no violence will be attempted, the power
of her affection for him will surely assert itself; the mind will
act on those organs which nature has endowed to fulfil the law of
her being, the walls of the vagina will expand, and the glands at
the entrance will be fully lubricated by a secretion of mucous which
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