r son ignorantly, but none the less
effectually.

12. SEDUCTION AND RUIN.--That son next courts another virtuous
fair one, engages her affections, and ruins her, or else leaves her
broken-hearted, so that she is the more easily ruined by others, and
thus prepares the way for her becoming an inmate of a house "whose
steps take hold on hell." His heart is now indifferent, he is ready
for anything.

13. THE RIGHT PRINCIPLE.--I say then, with emphasis, that no man
should ever pay his addresses to any woman, until he has made his
selection, not even to aid him in making that choice. He should first
make his selection intellectually, and love afterward. He should go
about the matter coolly and with judgment, just as he would undertake
any other important matter. No man or woman, when blinded by love, is
in a fit state to judge advantageously as to what he or she requires,
or who is adapted to his or her wants.

14. CHOOSING FIRST AND LOVING AFTERWARDS.--I know, indeed, that this
doctrine of choosing first and loving afterward, of excluding love
from the councils, and of choosing by and with the consent of the
intellect and moral sentiments, is entirely at variance with the
feelings of the young and the customs of society; but, for its
correctness, I appeal to the common-sense--not to the experience, for
so few try this plan. Is not this the only proper method, and the one
most likely to result happily? Try it.

15. THE YOUNG WOMAN'S CAUTION.--And, especially, let no young lady
ever once think of bestowing her affections till she is certain they
will not be broken off--that is, until the match is fully agreed upon,
but rather let her keep her heart whole till she bestows it for life.
This requisition is as much more important, and its violation as much
more disastrous to woman than to man, as her social faculties are
stronger than his.

16. A BURNT CHILD DREADS THE FIRE.--As a "burnt child dreads the
fire," and the more it is burnt, the greater the dread: so your
affections, once interrupted, will recoil from a second love, and
distrust all mankind. No! you cannot be too choice of your love--that
pivot on which turn your destinies for life and future happiness.

[Illustration: AFTER THE ENGAGEMENT.]

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LOVE-SPATS.

Could ever hear by tale or history,
The course of true love never did run smooth.
--SHAKESPEARE.

"Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned,