but the less it is resorted to the better.

10. NEVER PUNISH IN A PASSION.--Wrath only becomes cruelty. There is
no moral power in it. When you seem to be angry you can do no good.

11. BRUTISH VIOLENCE ONLY MULTIPLIES OFFENDERS.--Striking and beating
the body seldom reaches the soul. Fear and hatred beget rebellion.

12. PUNISH PRIVATELY.--Avoid punishments that break down self-respect.
Striking the body produces shame and indignation. It is enough for the
other children to know that discipline is being administered.

13. NEVER STOP SHORT OF SUCCESS.--When the child is not conquered the
punishment has been worse than wasted. Reach the point where neither
wrath nor sullenness remain. By firm persistency and persuasion
require an open look of recognition and peace. It is only evil to stir
up the devil unless he is cast out. Ordinarily one complete victory
will last a child for a lifetime. But if the child relapses, repeat
the dose with proper accompaniments.

14. DO NOT REQUIRE CHILDREN TO COMPLAIN OF THEMSELVES FOR PARDON.--It
begets either sycophants or liars. It is the part of the government to
detect offences. It reverses the order of matters to shirk this duty.

15. GRADE AUTHORITY UP TO LIBERTY.--The growing child must have
experiments of freedom. Lead him gently into the family. Counsel
with him. Let him plan as he can. By and by he has the confidence of
courage without the danger of exposures.

16. RESPECT.--Parents must respect each other. Undermining either
undermines both. Always govern in the spirit of love.

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CONVERSATION.

Some men are very entertaining for a first interview, but after that
they are exhausted, and run out; on a second meeting we shall find
them very flat and monotonous; like hand-organs, we have heard all
their tunes.--COULTON.

He who sedulously attends, pointedly asks, calmly speaks, coolly
answers, and ceases when he has no more to say, is in possession of
some of the best requisites of man.--LAVATER.

Beauty is never so lovely as when adorned with the smile, and
conversation never sits easier upon us than when we know and
then discharge ourselves in a symphony of Laughter, which may not
improperly be called the Chorus of Conversation.--STEELE.

The first ingredient in Conversation is Truth, the next Good Sense,
the third Good Humor, and the fourth Wit.--SIR WILLIAM TEMPLE.

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