ood manners. It is what, in our intercourse with others, we should
strive to be--to have "high thoughts," as Sir Philip Sidney expresses
it, "seated in a heart of courtesy." In Bishop Patteson's life is
given the estimate of him, as a true gentleman, by a New Zealand
native: "Gentleman-gentleman thought nothing that ought to be done too
mean for him. Pig-gentleman never worked." The savage knew by
instinct that the good Bishop who came to live among them that he might
teach them to be better, who treated them with invariable courtesy and
consideration, was a true gentleman, though he had to clean his own
hut, to cook his own food, and to mend his own kettles. And he knew
also that the man who made others work for him without doing them any
good in return, who swore at them and abused them, was only a
pig-gentleman, however rich or high in station he might be.

A few advices on the subject of this chapter may be given.

1. _Cultivate a pleasing manner_.--Any one can be civil and polite if
he sets himself to be so. Some suppose that it is unworthy of a robust
character to be gentle in demeanor, that it indicates a certain amount
of effeminacy, and that strength and gruffness go together. We hear
men spoken of sometimes approvingly as "rough diamonds." But history
tells us that the noblest and strongest have been the most tender and
courteous. King Robert the Bruce was "brave as a lion, tender-hearted
as a woman." "Sir Walter Raleigh was every inch a man, a brave
soldier, a brilliant courtier, and yet a mirror of courtesy. Nobody
would accuse Sir Philip Sidney of having been deficient in manliness,
yet his fine manners were proverbial. It is the courtesy of Bayard,
the knight, _sans peur et sans reproche_, which has immortalized him
quite as much as his valor." [2] It is not beneath us to study good
manners. To a great extent they come naturally from refinement of
disposition and inborn delicacy of feeling. But they may also, to a
great extent, be learned and acquired. "Watch," it has wisely been
said, "those of excellent reputation in manners. Catch the temper of
the great masters of literature--the nobility of Scott, the sincerity
of Thackeray, the heartiness of Dickens, the tenderness of Macdonald,
the delicacy of Tennyson, the grace of Longfellow, the repose of
Shakespeare." It is well worth while for every young man beginning
life to form a true idea of what good manners are, and to make it his
con