You must be completely
monopolized or you do not thoroughly love. You must admire no one
but the person with whom you have immured yourself for life. Old
friendships must be dissolved, new friendships must not be
formed, for fear of invoking the beautiful emotion that 'makes
the home.'"

Even if jealousy in matters of sex could be admitted to be an emotion
working on the side of civilized progress, it must still be pointed out
that it merely acts externally; it can have little or no real influence;
the jealous person seldom makes himself more lovable by his jealousy and
frequently much less lovable. The main effect of his jealousy is to
increase, and not seldom to excite, the causes for jealousy, and at the
same time to encourage hypocrisy.

All the circumstances, accompaniments, and results of domestic
jealousy in their completely typical form, are well illustrated
by a very serious episode in the history of the Pepys household,
and have been fully and faithfully set down by the great diarist.
The offence--an embrace of his wife's lady-help, as she might now
be termed--was a slight one, but, as Pepys himself admits, quite
inexcusable. He is writing, being in his thirty-sixth year, on
the 25th of Oct., 1668 (Lord's Day). "After supper, to have my
hair combed by Deb, which occasioned the greatest sorrow to me
that ever I knew in this world, for my wife, coming up suddenly,
did find me embracing the girl.... I was at a wonderful loss upon
it, and the girl also, and I endeavored to put it off, but my
wife was struck mute and grew angry.... Heartily afflicted for
this folly of mine.... So ends this month," he writes a few days
later, "with some quiet to my mind, though not perfect, after the
greatest falling out with my poor wife, and through my folly with
the girl, that ever I had, and I have reason to be sorry and
ashamed of it, and more to be troubled for the poor girl's sake.
Sixth November. Up, and presently my wife up with me, which she
professedly now do every day to dress me, that I may not see
Willet [Deb], and do eye me, whether I cast my eye upon her, or
no, and do keep me from going into the room where she is. Ninth
November. Up, and I did, by a little note which I flung to Deb,
advise her that I did continue to deny that ever I kissed her,
and so she might govern herself. The truth is that