bject of existence in this life. To work
efficiently is the supreme obligation. It is naturally to desire
happiness and to labor for it; but it is absurd to be annoyed and angry
because we do not find it. Happiness through marriage is never attained
except by never-ending self-abnegation and effort.

We must struggle or we will degenerate. A correct interpretation of
racial progress proves this truth. Effort is the supreme law. All good
things have been given to man at the price of labor.

ADVICE TO YOUNG WIVES

CHAPTER XXV

"Being forced to work, and forced to do your best, will breed
in you temperance, self-control, diligence, strength of will,
content, and a hundred virtues which the idle will never know."

CHARLES KINGSLEY.

HOW TO ACHIEVE

What the Young Wife Owes to Herself--Why Was I Born--What Are
the Personal Qualities Necessary to Success--What Are the
Personal Qualities Necessary to Happiness--Self-control--What
is a Thought--The Evil Habit of Hasty Judgment--The Bad Thought
Habit--Training the Mind--Go About it in the Right Way--Be Sure
Your Husband's Friends Are Your Friends--Be a Good Fellow--Two
Kinds of People in the World--Everything Depends Upon What We
Do With Our Mind--The Most Popular Woman--The Gift of
Flattery--Choosing Your Friends--True Friendship Expects and
Demands Nothing--True Friendship is Necessary--"By Your Friends
Shall Ye Be Known"--Making Resolves--The Formula of
Success--When Fortune Knocks.

WHAT THE YOUNG WIFE OWES TO HERSELF.--If the young wife is making a
conscientious effort to do her duty, there are certain things she owes
to herself, to her husband, to her unborn children. She too must
preserve her health, her efficiency. In guarding the health and
contributing to the efficiency of her husband, she will have done much
in this direction. She will, however, have many spare moments at her
disposal. We have already remarked that these are the moments of
destiny. In the coming years she will look back upon these moments with
real pride, or regret, according to how she spent, or misspent them. Let
us begin all over again, with renewed interest and enthusiasm, and try
to understand just what is meant by this.

Every human being asks himself, or herself, at some time in life, the
questions, "Why was I born? For what purpose was I created and put up