iness and robustness of character.

3. PERSONALITY OF OTHERS.--True politeness especially exhibits itself in
regard for the personality of others. A man will respect the individuality
of another if he wishes to be respected himself. He will have due regard
for his views and opinions, even though they differ from his own. The
well-mannered man pays a compliment to another, and sometimes even secures
his respect by patiently listening to him. He is simply tolerant and
forbearant, and refrains from judging harshly; and harsh judgments of
others will almost invariably provoke harsh judgments of ourselves.

4. THE IMPOLITE.--The impolite, impulsive man will, however, sometimes
rather lose his friend than his joke. He may surely be pronounced a very
foolish person who secures another's hatred at the price of a moment's
gratification. It was a saying of Burnel, the engineer--himself one of the
kindest-natured of men--that "spite and ill-nature are among the most
expensive luxuries in life." Dr. Johnson once said: "Sir, a man has no more
right to say a rude thing to another than to knock him down."

5. FEELINGS OF OTHERS.--Want of respect for the feelings of others usually
originates in selfishness, and issues in {71} hardness and repulsiveness of
manner. It may not proceed from malignity so much, as from want of
sympathy, and want of delicacy--a want of that perception of, and attention
to, those little and apparently trifling things, by which pleasure is given
or pain occasioned to others. Indeed, it may be said that in self-sacrifice
in the ordinary intercourse of life, mainly consists the difference between
being well and ill bred. Without some degree of self-restraint in society a
man may be found almost insufferable. No one has pleasure in holding
intercourse with such a person, and he is a constant source of annoyance to
those about him.

6. DISREGARD OF OTHERS.--Men may show their disregard to others in various
impolite ways, as, for instance, by neglect of propriety in dress, by the
absence of cleanliness, or by indulging in repulsive habits. The slovenly,
dirty person, by rendering himself physically disagreeable, sets the tastes
and feelings of others at defiance, and is rude and uncivil, only under
another form.

7. THE BEST SCHOOL OF POLITENESS.--The first and best school of politeness,
as of character, is always the home, where woman is the teacher. The
manners of society at large are but the reflex of the mann