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e was displeased
as if she could see right through us) till we were ready to sink
through the floor from embarasment, and total absence of knowing
what to say. This look was usually followed with "Clara" or "Susy
what do you mean by this? do you want to come to the bath-room with
me?" Then followed the climax for Clara and I both new only too
well what going to the bath-room meant.
But mamma's first and foremost object was to make the child
understand that he is being punished for _his_ sake, and because
the mother so loves him that she cannot allow him to do wrong; also
that it is as hard for her to punish him as for him to be punished
and even harder. Mamma never allowed herself to punish us when she
was angry with us she never struck us because she was enoyed at us
and felt like striking us if we had been nauty and had enoyed her,
so that she thought she felt or would show the least bit of temper
toward us while punnishing us, she always postponed the punishment
until _she_ was no more chafed by our behavior. She never humored
herself by striking or punishing us because or while she was the
least bit enoyed with us.
Our very worst nautinesses were punished by being taken to the
bath-room and being whipped by the paper cutter. But after the
whipping was over, mamma did not allow us to leave her until we
were perfectly happy, and perfectly understood why we had been
whipped. I never remember having felt the least bit bitterly toward
mamma for punishing me. I always felt I had deserved my punishment,
and was much happier for having received it. For after mamma had
punished us and shown her displeasure, she showed no signs of
further displeasure, but acted as if we had not displeased her in
any way.
Ordinary punishments answered very well for Susy. She was a thinker, and
would reason out the purpose of them, apply the lesson, and achieve the
reform required. But it was much less easy to devise punishments that
would reform Clara. This was because she was a philosopher who was
always turning her attention to finding something good and satisfactory
and entertaining in everything that came her way; consequently it was
sometimes pretty discouraging to the troubled mother to find that after
all her pains and thought in inventing what she meant to be a severe and
reform-compelling
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